“Consent to sex is not a consent to fatherhood” Thugtician
The right for men to decide when and if they’re ready to parent and with whom is the legalization of drugs argument in the reproductive rights arena. I don’t have solutions for the so-called black community, but I do know in a visceral way, that whatever solution or set of solutions you come up with has to start with reducing the number of babies. The children born from dysfunctional relationship/mating and/or casual hook ups is the fuel for interpersonal problems that lead to greater communal problems. It is ALL about removing incentives.
If I use a condom and it breaks doesn’t that mean I didn’t consent to fatherhood?
I believe Legal Paternal Surrender as Karen Straugham eloquently lays out in her 4 part series or Roe for men (below) from Mumi Obsidian Ali at the Obsidian Media Network is the start of the conversation.
So to the black men on youtube in the black manosphere, instead of worrying about who other black men, love, sleep with or date; or arguing personal preferences, maybe shift your mind to something worthwhile. And that is, your reproductive rights or the right to decide, on your terms, when and if you’re ready to parent. On probably the most important decision of your life, you basically have no say. Save the big mamaism madea rhetoric like, “keep it in your pants”; that isn’t a reproductive right and certainly isn’t the solid legal protection afforded to women. Condoms break and there’s no proof or guarantee the woman is taking the pill, so you’re relying on trust and not solid legal protection.
But, at the same time, don’t totally ignore the sentiment, if you take it out of your pants make sure you’re not putting it into dirt.