About 37one22

I live in the SF Bay Area. I claim the entire area because for us, a city is simply where we rest, a description that doesn’t capture how we do our living. I feel fortunate that I'm surrounded by things I love, natural beauty, beaches, mountain, regional parks, great restaurants, people from all over the world and championship golf courses. We have the arts, great universities, sports teams, innovation/free flow of ideas and great cafes. My only 2 gripes about the area are: the great bookstore scene is gone. There aren't as many book-readings and energetic discussion taking place anymore. And number 2, the jazz scene sucks. But I love the West Coast, everything from San Diego to Vancouver and could never again be landlocked. I hate cold weather so my affinity for the Pacific Northwest tells you how special I think the area is. I don’t have much interest in anything pass the Rockies, except of course a few special people. There is one exception; I love visiting Washington D.C. My favorite people are first and foremost the ladies in my life, followed by some very special friends. One couldn't ask for a better mother, wife and daughter. A Sun worshiper, no party affiliation and I loathe dogma of any kind. A foodie, music lover and movie buff (and big time original Star Trek fan). I use to be an avid reader but it's getting harder to read anything beyond 200 pages, maybe it's a sign of the times. Some think doing great things with your body doesn't rank with doing great things with your mind. I say that because (if I say so myself) I was a really good athlete. Competing athletically on some court, field or course was always my sanctuary, as Denzel said in, Remember the Titans "It’s always right". I feel the freest when I'm out of the country away from the imposed all American skin game; so at any given moment I rather be riding a bike in Amsterdam or taking in island life somewhere warm. This blog will hopefully be a place for a full range of emotionally engaging commentary. If you’ll join me we’ll talk about current events: politics, race, culture, sports, entertainment, nature, relationships and more. There are plenty of places to hear polite conversations that gravitate towards a safe middle with conventional platitudes. I hope not to do that here. My hope is that it’s provocative, humorous, eruditely (correct?) and insightful. The intent is to be iconoclastic as we explore how the modern world is forcing us to re-think everything. But what is life without sentimentality, unicorns and rainbows, so there will be some of that too, just not too much. I'm opinionated but I'm not always right. At times, I take positions no one else will because I believe it contributes to the dialogue and it also feeds the contrarian strain in me. Other times I'm purposely outrageous, if I feel it opens the door for someone else to fill the space; someone smarter and more skilled at tact. I'm also a recovering sexist (by today's knee-jerk standards) and you know how those 12 step programs go, relapses can occur at anytime, so I take it day-by-day. I'm a straight up "guy", but enlightened and a little refined, far from the one-dimensional man of the mid-20th century and not quite metro-sexual. It’s easy to name call or dismiss, so let’s be civil as we engage. That’s not to say that at times we won’t be passionate. I'd prefer shots above the neck instead of below the belt, but I'm not above a little trash talk, and I have a few shots of my own. You'll never have to wonder whether its personal, most of the times it isn't and if it is you'll know. What's the fun in getting personal if the target doesn't know its personal? With that being said, laughter is my therapy. OK-- please, with all due respect, unless the conversation is about religion, do not sic your God on me. If, as a way to support a point, you feel the urge to inject, “God wants, says or tells me”, just don’t do it. Whenever I read that line I'll respond with the literary equivalent of a blank stare. A blank stare is my response when people say it to me in conversation. I do this out of respect, because most of the people I love (and who love me) are religious, but that's not all they are, nor is it the basis of our relationship(s). They are built on something more universal. And lastly, I haven't drunk anyone's kool-aide and don't consider myself an "ist" or follow any "isms", no movements or group-think. I'm going to borrow the following because I thought it was cool: "I'll remains anonymous for now. But there will be clues, tasty morsels of information, that friends (and perhaps enemies) can use to find out my gov't name." The reason for anonymity is that, in addition to people playing dirty (they jump on you, then cry foul when you defend yourself) personalities get in the way of ideas. This blog is about ideas. "Big minds focus on ideas, medium minds events and small minds personalities". So the ultimate goal is to be big minded.

Still looking for the Black Karen Straughan-Rebecca Lynn Pope ain’t her

“Where is the Black Karen Straughan”    Mumia Obsidian Ali

PS:  Rebecca Lynn Pope is not her.


Rebecca Lynn Pope is refreshing, I know guys have been waiting to hear those words from an American Black woman but it’s too little too late and does not go far enough. She speaks straight-talk to the women but does that mean anything for the guys? Maybe all she did was coop Black mansophere talking points and that’s where it stops. Or maybe she realizes the dating game is now a buyers market not seller’s market and employing a little coach’m up tough love to the sellers. Even if the body-politic takes her advice, there is still the ingrained notion of settling.

The Fundamental human right

I read a lot of comments on the black wing of the manosphere on Youtube. What I’m finding out is that black men haven’t, for the most part, connected the dots to what having reproductive rights means to their lives.  The reason for this is how easy it is to throw black men off target by invoking race base grievances and racial solidarity shaming language. (But then getting raked over the coals because of an innocuous comment, like Cam Newton, and still seeing race and not the gender effect.)  Or this is just the venting stage as the Red Pill transition takes place. But there can be no solidarity, black politics or black unity and black men should not enter any agreement with those who don’t believe black men should have equal reproductive rights. What is more a more fundamental human right than to decide when, with whom and under what circumstances you procreate? Procreation came 2nd after eating, even before security and shelter.

Venting about “Black female fuckery”

There’s a lot of time spent critiquing “black female fuckery” and there is plenty there; it should be taken to task. What “black female fuckery” has meant, for black boys especially, over the last 2/3 generations is criminal and for 40+yrs they have deflected attention from their role in all of this. The interpersonal part, although cathartic to vent about, is not an issue for me beyond pointing out the stunning hypocrisy of black women and their Queen B flying monkeys. And of course seeing them tap dance around the poetic justice blowing back from their own words and all the shit they talked in the 80s and 90s.  But who they sleep with or marry, thug or non-black male, is neither here nor there, why should it be in a world full of women?  Which is why I have no interest in, as Mumia Obsidian Ali says, “forcing them to horse trade”.  I’m not looking personally and if I have any advice, it’s that we’re beyond the tipping point, it’s too late. All that needs to be said, has been said, there’s nothing to talk about, they’ve shown they have no interest in hearing from black men, so no guy should be grovelling to explain or defend anything, just say good luck on the open dating market.  Unless it’s wrangling from their hands, the complete power over the stewardship of these boys, I have no rap beyond them as just another citizen group. And, I’ve explained the why in a previous post, most recently when the fate was sealed by Damon Young.  I truly hope everyone does well.  As hard as it is to connect with another human beings, if you find someone you connect with, no matter what race, culture, take advantage of it. Whatever fetish you have, knock yourself out. But you can stall the dick monitoring of  black men.

Still waiting for the Black Karen Straughan

Getting back to the topic in the title, here is an excellent video by Karen Straughan, addressing Jordan Peterson’s comment about MGTOW. Now for many black men this will be hard to accept, we seem to think that, if a person speaks with a certain cadence they actually have something worth listening too and if they don’t, then it doesn’t’ resonate. As it stands now the baby canard, “black men need to take care of de ‘sponsibilities” is the last battle cry, the only thing they can hold over black men’s head. (And piggy-backing on White Feminist’s grasp for funding via this DV focus will back fire; black women aren’t white women and when people start unpacking the data on IPV, they’re going to discover something and black women, it is not going to be a good look).  So I hope guys will take the time to listen to these ideas and contemplate how all this is relevant to their lives

Reproductive control: young black men and the State

Straughn’s breakdown of Jordan Peterson is like a case study. If young black men had reproductive rights and stayed out of trouble, they would cut a lot of risk. We know they aren’t going to be celibate and “keep it in your pants” is not a reproductive right. So even if they avoid serious criminal trouble, there is this other avenue for the state to enter their life. They’re not marrying so that part is not so much the problem (unless they desire marriage) but they are fucking. They need to have the right to give affirmative consent and not be forced into fatherhood. They have to find a way to avoid the state, until the laws are changed, that horse-trading table I can get with. I can’t tell you how many black men will argue for their right to remain 2nd class on this. Still believing that old meme, old wives tale, or my momma said stuff of the pre-birth control and abortion shot-gun wedding era.  Update that software dawg!

So if you have reached your limit with, “black female fuckery” and you arrive to the open dating world as refugee, not by choice or accident; just know that these laws apply with any woman, no matter the race. Guys who have been on the open dating scene pretty much know this but late entry guys might come to this a little naive.

Response to Jordan Peterson

Jordan Peterson relies to blow-back from his MGTOW criticism.

Dr. T Hasan Johnson on VSB’s Black Eugenics Renaissance

“Straight Black Men Are the Scapegoats of Black People: VSB’s Black Eugenics Renaissance and the Pandering to Make Attention Outweigh Death” by T. Hasan Johnson, Ph.D.

This article written by Dr. T Hasan Johnson is excellent. It is a response to the article written by Damon Young of @VSB.  Read article here

Dr. T Hasan Johnson and Dr. Tommy Curry, My Brotha’s keepers, 2 courageous pioneers behind enemy lines. See if they can get with this disruption.

VSB cuts to the chase!

Damon Young from @VSB thank you for writing this article and removing all doubt. From the backlash to My Brother’s Keeper a few years ago, to the attack on Nate Parker a few months ago, Young cuts to the chase, gets granular and shows us, what’s really going on. This article, saying straight black men are an existential threat to black women, is the quintessential pose of a certain type of black man. Those positioning themselves as “The Good Black man”, following mainstream idea of, “The Good Blacks” as Paul Harvey use to say. And on that obscure reference, below you will find, “the rest of the story”

Black women say black men are bad, “The Good Black man” says, yes those men over there are bad, I’m not like them, I’m a nice man, got it together man, educated man, I treat women nice. (So chose me, I deserve more…) Paraphrasing Thugtician.

If all the evidence over the last 30-40yrs, of the attitude towards black boys (who would become men) wasn’t clear to the guys, it should be by now.   Young helps those who make the case that, the “Black Community” gave up on boys years ago.  These boys, after being systematically underdeveloped have now become the straight black men the community’s favored daughters just love to hate.

No need to say more, I’ve curated some excellent content around this issue:

Tommy Curry, Yvette Carnell and Antonio Moore unpack Young’s article on Breaking Brown and Tonetalks.
Breaking Brown

And in the backdrop of all of this is the problem with Black Lives Matter.  Like Eddie Murphy in 48hrs at the country bar, “not a real popular place with the brothas”.

  1. T Hasan Johnson
    Silly Rabbit Tricks are for kids BLM was not for you
  2. Washington Times
    BLM real agenda
  3. SBW
    Youtube video
  4. Running to the front of the line and changing the face of mass incarceration
    Mother bail out day


Black Gender War: Intersectionality deflection and Mass Incarceration

Here is another conversation. This one from Youtube channel, Breaking Brown with Yvette Carnell.   It is all politics and I believe Yvette does an excellent job, she is a throw back to the type of women who spoke direct, plan and in pragmatic terms.   I have to say I don’t think what we know as Black politics has a future.  But, many are still playing the game and if you are going to play that game she seems to have a better take than the typical “Negro whisperers”,  Harris-Perry, Dyson, Lamont Hill, Charles Blow and the like. She maybe to the left of me but I respect her courage, she’ll take on sacred cows and I don’t believe she is a true ideology and can be convinced.
The topic was 40% unemployment for young black men and of course incarceration naturally comes up.  Reva calls in to intersectionality us.  She wants to change a conversation about incarceration to a conversation about black women being erased.
Either these women are delusional with narcissistic personality disorder, cognitively not evolved to contemplate life without themselves at the center—same thing I guess. Or, they are orchestrated trolls with talking points that derail conversations.

Here’s a call from a woman named Reva, from Kentucky.

So even though black women are far far far less impacted, intersectionality has it that they still should be, if not put at the top of the issue, given equal time.  Why, when that 300 rate is normal, along with everyone else?  If this was some ‘achievement” stat and black women were in the norm with everyone else and black men were the outliers, they’d be talking about how much better they’re doing than the men.  There is no issue where black men are doing worse than black women and the men are put at the top of the discussion list.

At each point:  Yvette says children and quickly (move over black children) Reva injects, “and black women”.   Yvette says issues from eviction, to debt, to all kinds of stuff, Reva injects “That are specific to us”.

“That are specific to us”, only US, those in that echo chamber who talks about nothing but US. If they were at all interested in climate change, infrastructure, globalization, terrorism (they aren’t) their angle would be telling you how those things impact black women in more and unique ways because you know, they are black women.

This next caller is Antonio Moore who appears on the show occasionally and has his own Youtube channel TonetalksAntonio Moore graduated from UCLA, and Loyola Law School. He is now a practicing Los Angeles based attorney. He writes for The Huffington Post, The Grio and Inquality.org.  In recent years he worked as a producer on the Emmy nominated documentary entitled Crack in the System presented by Al Jazeera. It tells the story of the effects of Mass Incarceration, the Iran Contra and the resulting crack cocaine epidemic that swept across America.

Here’s the call and follow up by Yvette

Black Gender War: No end in sight

The following are conversations that show why there is no end in sight to the black gender war. It shows why trying to engage with black women on this issue if futile.

We’re in a culture that’s intensifying its focus on consent (affirmative consent laws) and where reproductive rights (reproductive rights in advanced nations mind you) ranks above global warming, global terrorism and a shifting world economy.  And yet women pretend to have the inability to grasp a simple concept central to everything that drives their politics (mostly, themselves and of course the children, but children secondary to women) and that is, choice.  So they either don’t care or they’re pretending not to understand how forcing a man into fatherhood against his wishes creates resentment which has repercussions for the man and child.  I’m going with the former, they simply don’t care. Black men were put on earth for their utility and that is it, they could careless about us beyond that. One’s individual sovereignty means nothing to people who think they’re your owners.  So they benefit from not having to update software to view male/female relationships through a modern lens.

The first conversation is from Obsidian Media Network and Obsidian Radio: The Podcast. It’s  on his channel and includes his commentary on a conversation between Allen Roger Currie and Ms Sophia A Nelson.  You’ll see endorsed by with no links or quotes so, don’t get that?)  I searched for the original video to leave a link for the entire conversation but it doesn’t look like it is still available. You might want to search Allen Roger Currie and Sophia A Nelson on YouTube.  But it doesn’t matter, this isn’t about personalities as much as it is an outdated worldview. I don’t know Ms Nelson, had never heard of her until this, so again this is about a worldview, a zeitgeist that has outlived its time.   And you know black people love to claim “I’m old school”; which is really a cop-out from having to think differently about a given subject. Well, at least the goal is to not have  the men thinking differently.

For the purpose of what I’m doing here, just wanted to highlight the “definition belongs to the definer” comment so that it can be revisited later. But the first point here is to check her comment. There’s no real point to it, just a disconnected ramble.

Have a listen:

She starts off invoking Morrison, asking have you read Morrison or Alice Walker. My response is, do you read anything else? Do you think either of them gives a perspective on men or relationship that isn’t through the lens of female psychology?  But I digress, I know the answer.  So I’m waiting to be educated on the authors she mentions, see the connection but she leaps to another thought about Alice Walker, The Color Purple and questions, “Why do black men respond…”

My response (which should have been Currie’s response):  When are we not “exposed”?  Name a group that’s been researched and studied more than black men?  Or consider the number of statues on the books over the years, regulating black men.
Why is it that the lay person can rattle stats, off top, about black men but not any other group?  Pick any social economic stat, what percentage of Asian men are say, in college or high school drop-outs? How about White men? How about Latino men?  Can’t do it huh, can’t come up with a stat, off top, not even one that is wrong or a myth.   Exposing black men is exactly what black women have been doing since the OG Becky, Ms Steinem put on, ghost wrote and labeled MS Wallace’s book, “the book that will change black male female relationships for generations” or something to the effect.  All during the 80s/90s, on CNN, Nightline, and any platform that would shove a mic or camera; at sold-out venues for a traveling road show of comedian and actor turned authors. Branding the idea of “successful” black women and positioning them as more deserving than, “everyday” black women and superior morally, to black men. There isn’t a group of black men, public intellectuals, activist, actors, entertainers, talk-show host, etc. running interference when programs and funding is for black women or girls.  No recruitment of highly visible black women to pen a letter to that blocks efforts like the one directed at My Brother’s Keeper.

More from Ms Nelson:  With the guys who engage in this, I was upfront with you so I’m off the hook:  She defines as foolish, immature and not something that is moving (me, I mean our) race in a productive direction.  This is the, whatever is good for my group, is what’s best for the “community” argument; amazing how that conveniently lines up. Well,  any guys agenda is just as valid as the one she’s espousing.  Besides, hasn’t she read Toni Morrison, the definition belongs to the definer, not the defined. So you don’t get to define what is foolish or immature about our desires. To avoid serious relationships and babies is, considering the risk, logical. See Helen Smith, Men on Strike.  Again, Obsidian ask the question and you can include Helen Smith, where is the Black  Karen Straugham?

So what IS the definition, if not foolish and immature, of going ahead and having unprotected sex with a guy who has just been upfront with you? What is the definition of consenting to unprotected sex with a guy who has been up front with you, then carrying the pregnancy to term, having been told the condition?    Didn’t he get consent to just hit it and be off the hook, weren’t those the terms she agreed to?  What Ms Nelson and women like her want is,  to agree and get the dick under his conditions but after getting the dick, renegotiate the terms.  She did chose the correct analogy and it is very telling because the baby is the hook.

Next it is the babies canard, the hook indeed: 73% of our children are born out-of -wedlock.  Here she let’s women off the hook for protection against pregnancy (but this doesn’t count in the, foolish and immature and not moving our race forward, meme).
She says it is not just a problem it is IMMORAL. Clearly she isn’t talking about the party that has solid legal protection, many many more birth control options, adoption or safe haven drop offs no questions asked, no deadbeat label.
Then she confirms the assumption that she isn’t talking about the women with her, “without daddies”  comment followed by, “and the women are the only one’s left to raise those children because the brother’s have stepped off, deal with THAT! (I will in a moment).  She says, emphatically, because she think she’s made a point or is certain she just checkmated Currie.   I guess so because Currie chimed in with a weak response, as though he had his tail between his legs, “those are generalizations” and later with, “you both have strong opinions”.  Well I didn’t hear the callers opinions but, nonsense. Her rant is conveniently circular self-serving and one-sided. It is a zeitgeist, it’s propaganda and demonstrably false. Showing how it is false is the response, not “those are generalizations”.   This isn’t 1957, it is 2017 people need to update software.   So until guys are not genuflecting to that rant, black women shaking their fingers at black men about babies, and start responding strongly in uncertain terms to that shit, they are flat-out simps. It is the last, leftover residue that those who claim “Red PIll” status must shed.

Brothers you do not ever have to engage in this conversation or a black woman shaking her fingers in your face about some grievance with, “black men”.  For the most part you can avoid this drama. But if you’re looking for a way to think about it, here it is.

Again this is not 1957, it is 2017, so let’s, “deal with that”. The that being the babies canard, 73% of black children born out-of-wedlock. It take two to make a pregnancy only one person has unilateral control over whether a baby results.  Carrying a baby to term by a guy you barely know, know has other babies, is a choice. Choosing to carry his baby to term against his will or without consent then turning to every one saying,  “look what he did”, “he aint no good”, so I deserve help.  Embracing what is now a brand, single-black mother (widowers excluded and some divorcees too) and pretending they’re helpless victims of sexually irresponsible men.  She has ALL the options, take ownership over your body, choose one of the many birth control options and if you forgo all of those, demand that he wear a condom. If any of that fails, consider abortion, adoption or safe haven drop off. If you can’t afford the baby by yourself you are as reckless as the guy but moreso because YOU had more BC options and YOU made the unilateral decision to carry to term.
So with all those babies, we don’t know how many of those men truly wanted to be fathers.  Consent to sex is not a consent to parenthood. Keep it in your pants isn’t a reproductive right, it is not solid legal protection.  We do know being forced into fatherhood creates resentment and yet the women don’t care. And we also don’t know how many wanted to get away from the women instead of the babies. We also know that, the mom’s attitude toward the father is the number 1 indicator of whether he’ll be involved.

So fuck all you want but stop having babies for provisions only, stop using babies as leverage, to garner sympathy or just because; or to punish/control the guy, stop the alienation. Have babies with guys who want to be fathers, stop the parental alienation.

And, at the end of the day, all this talk about, his ‘sponsibilites regarding babies is bullshit anyway. It is just a meme for the community to use against men and for women to paint themselves as victims for more of those goodies.  If we truly cared, we’d start first by connecting the men who fighting a corrupt system to be in their kids lives. But, we find it more pleasing to shake our fingers at apathy and bad men than connecting children with men who want to be fathers.

As for the rest, relationship, marriage, meh, there is nothing else to say.  We have passed the tipping point. We are where we are and it is what it is.

Black Gender War: Converse a case study analogy

This is a re-print from another post. Think it deserves its own space.Converse a case study analogy

In 1974 Nike came on the scene (registered as trademark) and instead of evolving and adapting Converse shrugged arrogantly (or, poked out their lips, rolled their eyes) and said, “We’re Converse we don’t have to change or compete”.  Converse was a conservative stodgy company of another generation that had gotten comfortable, slow and/or resistant to change and uninteresting. Nike, a hip flexible bold visionary company, zoomed right pass the king of the block. By 1980 Nike had 50% market share of athletic shoe market and went on to purchased Converse in 2003.

In the early 70’s the country was changing, over the next 30yrs the American demographic landscape would evolve. This would have an effect in many quarters, including interpersonal relationships–‘where boy chases girl until she catches him’.

In the American Black woman echo chamber there was a Converse like arrogance and the sentiment; we’re the shit, been the shit, where else are they (men) gonna go?   By the 80s they had grown more comfortable. “I can do bad all by myself”, “I don’t need no man”, etc. was the battle cry.  They exhaled (and flexed) on any and every platform that would shove a mic or camera in their faces. The tone then changed because the marriage numbers were embarrassingly low and they needed to explain to America why? Of course, you don’t want to admit that they aren’t beating down the door so presto, as deflection, you come up with plausible denials like, “can’t find a man”. Playing on all the stereotypes they new mainstream American would buy.  Somewhere in there for a while it was, “Black men have more interracial dating options and it isn’t fair”.  Hard to keep track though because it is all a self-serving convenient circular mind-fuck.
Anyway, black men heard how black women felt about them (what they were willing to say to mainstream America about their dads, uncles, brothers, cousins and friends) and quietly, without fanfare, voted with their feet. Except, that is, Jamal’s thirsty hit it and quit it dad (he told you) who is now in jail, dead, gone or not interested.  (Spent their years snubbing one set of guys while they scratched and stumbling over each other for the same small 15-20% of the guys). Time passed and things got quiet,  starting in the 90s women  looked over their shoulders, expecting a sea of men groveling at their feet and to their surprise and no one was there.  Things went from, where are they gonna go to, where did they go. (Which they then re-framed, packaged and sold as “abandonment”, again playing on stereotypes mainstream America is ready to buy). Many guys simply opted out, never to get married, others found the retail world of women; they come in all shapes, sizes and colors (plus the DR/ Rio) and discovered sweetness.

Having tasted sweetness, how it feels to not be a defense attorney or on probation ( I know how you black men are), how it feels when women actually like you; there is no turning back. Those men are not coming back, especially not to clean up yours and Ray Ray’s mess.

Most American Black women born after about 1970 don’t have the DNA for sweetness.  The ones that do (you know who you are) are off the market by 30 or shortly after. The others, when they’re not cheer-leading or “uplifting” each other (gets heavy I know), they double down on browbeating, as some weird mating call.

All these years later, on a Friday night you can still see this scene from Waiting to Exhale. A bunch of women who should have been off the market years ago and now finding that, you can’t have it all (even Ms. Anne can’t what made you think you could?).  Now, the “Only thing on the menu is crow!”

It would seem like introspection is in order but nah, they’re doubling down on what hasn’t worked because they (unless they escape the echo chamber, which I highly suggest) just do not have the technology.  This, youtube beefs, lawsuits, flagged channels, boycott movies because of someone’s wife, etc., etc. is just what the unraveling looks like, got my popcorn.
It is all simply sour grapes. Black women fell for it, the delusion that they own black men (most think they do along with being morally superior-which is why any discussion, debate, etc. starts with the frame of: you’re guilty black man and we’re innocent).   So we have the narcissism, that you’re at the center of a black man’s life, everything starts and ends with you and the delusion, that you can do something to reverse this.  But it is neither here nor there, a black man’s life is for him to live and there is a world full of women.

Retail world of women:

The Faustian Bargain & A Certain Type of Black American Woman

 My apologies. Every time I try to fix a typo or add something, it fucks up the formatting?!
” Not every black woman is like that but enough are, if it don’t apply let it fly, ladies” by  Obsidian Media Network

The phrase used throughout this piece,  a certain type of Black American woman, is granular meant to reflect the above statement. Because, if anyone knows this, certain type of Black American woman, it is other black women (American and foreign).

Good luck to Serena and her new husband.
The subject that won’t die resurfaced again recently.  THE most important thing that dominates and takes up far too much of Black American communal energy is the mate/marriage options of Black American women.  As usual the myopic gynocentric view, point no stronger than in the “black community”, creates a one-sided conversations in carefully sanitized echo chambers.
First the, there aren’t “marriageable” black men meme, and 2nd, the interracial dating angle. As for the latter, given the actual numbers, you have to go through mental gymnastics to link these two but facts don’t matter much so the link is made.  Also for the latter, one could simply say, everyone date, marry and love who they choose.  And that  works in a go-girrl sort of way but when it comes black men, well see Nate Parker (more later).

“Marriage is for white folks”
I reject the premise, frame and concept of “marriageable” black men unless we inject the phrase “marriageable” black women.   And, since so many have so much to say about black fathers,  while we’re at it, we can go all the way there and introduce another phrase, “parent-able” black women.  Along with another phrase I want to introduce into the lexicon, single-dad, not parent).  I’m not interested in black men are the problem scenarios; what black men need to do, need to be, etc. (especially when funding comes down the pipeline to address any black men/boy issues the response is, no no no). I’m tired of the worn out (convenient) frame that says, black women are ok just the way they are, innocent in fact, and if only the men would-fill in the blank. (until of course it’s time to date out and then they’re open to being “reprogrammed”) I mean, really, one can only ask what came first the delusion or narcissism. Again, these one-sided conversations take place in echo chambers. If men are present, they are talked at or about but never to and certainly never listened to. This attitude follows black men into old age. The men willing to sit through any of this shit,  when they aren’t auditioning by shamelessly virtue signalling as the “good black man”, sit silently and nod in agreement. (like in a black church being micro-agressed by a presidential candidate who, because he chose to be black, feels safe in shaking his fingers and referring to black men as “boys” and “fools”)   So to hell with the “marriageable” black men frame and anyone who indulges that line of thinking (and a special F you to the black men who do).  If you are a “good woman” and marriageable then you should have no problem, there’s a world full of men. So if you are indeed, bout-it-bout-it, are you willing to STFU and take your ass on the open market to compete? Or, and I suspect this is what all of this shit is about, are you campaigning for a tilted scale?

Yo momma black to something new

As for dating out stats, that some % of black men marry out and it’s more than the % of black women, why should those numbers be equal?   More to the point, what is the end game; how do you plan to change those numbers? (I’ll answer that in a minute).

Fresh on the heels of Nate Parker, Lance Gross and in light of black women’s reaction to the Cheerios commercial), Scandal being the top show among the black women demographic, a bullshit cognitively challenged narrative is being shopped around. serena-williams-engagement-koko-tv-5 They don’t miss an opportunity for narrative construction and weren’t going to let Serena Williams’ recent marriage announcement go unnoticed. There were memes on social media about black men’s reaction.  That black men have a problem with black women who date outside the race. This has been explained and black men have given their own views, but none of that matters when you aren’t really interested in our view, only what memes and urban-myths you can create and sell.

Just remember, while waiting for the supreme court hearing the Lovings were not lynched, didn’t have their crops or house burned.


Black men’s real response: A history lesson
Check out this short list below (there are many more) and you’ll see that historically, black men have not called for boycotts, tried to end or damage the careers and earnings of these women who married white men. dianaross

However Black American woman have not been so open (See Nate Parker)    Other examples: Lobbying Denzel Washington to not take the role (eventually taken by Dennis Haysbert) along side Michelle Pfeiffer in the movie Love Fields.  Wrote NBC lobbying them to not write in a white love interest for Eric La Salle on the show ER


In fact, as represented by  Redd Foxx as Fred Sanford in Sanford and Son, the love for Lena Horne reflected the prevailing attitude that black men didn’t have a problem with Lena.  The feelings are mixed for Whoopi, I like her and don’t have a problem with her but many do and it has little to do with who she married.  But in line with the discussion here, there is one name on the list that black men have talked about and do feel some kind of way about. I’ll see if you can go through the names and figure out who and why. If you can, well you are “woke”.
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Alice Walker
Josephine Baker
Lena Horne
Diana Ross
Mariah Carey
Hypocrisy, Black American women’s hot potato
The Black men in the 80s and 90s listened to everything a certain type of Black American woman was saying.  They heard it all and voted with their feet, quietly went their way without fanfare or professors telling them they should and how. No traveling road shows to sold out venues with a comedian and actor turned authors.  They didn’t announce on CNN, Nightline, etc, using all the racist stereotypes about Black American women.  They simply went their own way, or tried.  They mostly took daggers and arrows in the back, they were harassed and had their blackness and humanity questioned.
The issue for black men is not black women dating outside the race, it is the hypocrisy.  The little voice black American women are hearing, is their on. (excluding that one on the list above, she had another agenda)  The solipsism is so strong that they don’t have the technology to  imagine a world without themselves at the center.  But they are the ones who created the meme and drove the community venom at interracial mating, dating (notice they never say love, can’t admit to that, it would make black men human and we can’t have that). The yo-momma black, you can’t handle a strong black woman, self-hate, etc. They created it, drove the meme, enlisted queen B soldiers and deployed flying monkeys to monitor the behavior of other men and codify the idea.
Now a “certain type of Black American woman” is constructing this bull shit narrative that we have a problem with who they marry/date. This is to deflect from their own hypocrisy, which they in turn try to lay on black men. You can’t make this shit up. They are the last ones to the open dating table and are now reacting like the party didn’t start until they arrived.

Queen Narrative and the Faustian Bargain

Now to be sure, there are black men who feel some kind of way about Serena.  I posit that it is because they swallowed the queen narrative fantasy (I mean it is just too comical to even address) and agreed to a Faustian bargain to forgo their options/choices and swear off all other women.  Then as good flying monkeys they criticized other black men along the way.   They didn’t know that those women only wanted first right of refusal, wanted a pool of men to wait in the shadows, just in case. Many just bought into some Hotep, Pan-African political philosophy and did it for the community.  They haven’t noticed that everything under the auspices of, “for the community”, is usually for Black American women. And basically that comes down to reproductive rights, mating options and having black men along as queen b soldiers or to absorb blame for all the problems.

Evening the %

So to answer the question from earlier, how do you plan to change those numbers, the % of Black men who date out vs Black American women. It is this, during the 90s they went on any and every platform that would shove a camera and mic in their face to tell the world they can’t find a man. This psyops painted them as victims, explained away the rejection and allow them to express sour grapes at black men.  They didn’t simply look at it like social scientist, who have been pointing to the number disparity for years, so it was there to be used. They didn’t resort to any of the white supremacy, institutional racism claims made when they’re in their activist role; no they chose all the rhetoric you’d expect the Grand Dragon to use; they used the stereotypes they know resonates with the general public. They played the father card, the lazy card, job card. They used the down-low myth and black media ran with it as fervently as the mainstream media did. In fact, this was a creation and introduction of a whole new stereotype that hadn’t existed. And they went after Cosby for responding to the claim of “airing dirty laundry” by saying your dirty laundry lets out at 3pm everyday, LOL.  But, more to the point, they kept repeating it even after it had been proven to be false, again they don’t care about facts only conveniently circular narrative construction. Lee Daniels on HBO black list (If I recall) said, after visiting a shelter with HIV+ black women, “all these black men running around infecting black women”. THIS after it had been debunked!
The mainstream news recanted and ran small stories buried inside the fold, Black media for the most part didn’t bother. Eric Dyson wrote a book, challenged Cosby to a debate because of what he said about black women (of a certain class, amazing how they cherry pick on class) but he didn’t have much to say about the creation and dissemination of a whole new stereotype for black men.  This is part of the plan, a campaign to scare off and dissuade other women from black men. It is futile, a fool’s errand but that is the plan. They either want to even the % or they want  force black men into dealing with them (nostalgia for segregation days of complete control, damn what a look!).  Having black men around to fight with is at least preferable to being ignored and certainly better than seeing us with choices and options. OG crabs!

So to hear this bull shit narrative now is just laughable. They want to pretend all of that history didn’t exist, that the zeitgeist didn’t exist and wasn’t created by a certain type of Black American woman. They want to pretend that all this started with “all these black men on youtube”.  But again, this is the narrative shopped to the mainstream. They know damn well all the venom they spewed about black men and interracial dating.  And truth be told, the white female allies in the girl power movement can at any moment become, that “white bitch”.   Now that they have arrived to the open dating table, on “colored peoples” time, they’ll say or do anything to avoid eating crow. But it is not going to be that easy.

Expect more of the psyops
 In the echo chamber you can create any fantasy you need for the Black female borg hive mind.  1. If you need to answer (or think you need to answer) why so many have voted with their feet, why you aren’t married can’t get married, then saying you can’t find a man is better than admitting that they’re not asking.   2. Narrative construction, recasting black men as creators of the anti-interracial mating attitudes; so the progressive coalition won’t find out that is was a certain type of Black American woman’s backwards ass Jim Crow mentality. In the progressive world of expanding marriage rights, single-mom ascendance, they can’t be seen as the racist they are, so reconstruct the narrative and shift the blame to black men. But White progressives and liberals got a whiff of their fuckery in Seattle when they stormed the stage at a Bernie Sanders rally.
“Black women have the same attitude towards black men and children as an 19th century slave owner”  Tito the Fresh
There is a certain type of Black American woman thinks that everything for black men should go through them first, for their approval.  A certain type of Black American woman thinks they’re our owners and that we were put on earth for their utility, to affirm them and if not, we shouldn’t eat.  Everything they do is about serving our black asses up to throw off the scent anytime they think people are on to their shit. They’ve had a long run, helped by the establishment, as bullies to reign terror on the community and yes that includes men, women and children.
But it won’t be that easy this time, black men are exhaling!