Reproductive rights for men: use the legalization of drugs argument to address babymamaism in the black community

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“Consent to sex is not a consent to fatherhood”  Thugtician

The right for men to decide when and if they’re ready to parent and with whom is the  legalization of drugs argument in the reproductive rights arena.   I don’t have solutions for the so-called black community, but I do know in a visceral way, that whatever solution or set of solutions you come up with has to start with reducing the number of babies. The children born from dysfunctional relationship/mating and/or casual hook ups is the fuel for interpersonal problems that lead to greater communal problems. It is ALL about removing incentives.

If I use a condom and it breaks doesn’t that mean I didn’t consent to fatherhood? 

I believe Legal Paternal Surrender as Karen Straugham eloquently lays out in her 4 part series or Roe for men (below) from Mumi Obsidian Ali at the Obsidian Media Network is the start of the conversation.
So to the black men on youtube in the black manosphere, instead of worrying about who other black men, love, sleep with or date; or arguing personal preferences, maybe shift your mind to something worthwhile. And that is, your reproductive rights or the right to decide, on your terms, when and if you’re ready to parent.  On probably the most important decision of your life, you basically have no say.  Save the big mamaism madea rhetoric like, “keep it in your pants”;  that isn’t a reproductive right and certainly isn’t the solid legal protection afforded to women. Condoms break and there’s no proof or guarantee the woman is taking the pill, so you’re relying on trust and not solid legal protection.
But, at the same time, don’t totally ignore the sentiment, if you take it out of your pants make sure you’re not putting it into dirt.

Restoring the Black Family?

thenegrofamilyIt seems that many believe, restoring the Black family or as often said in the Black Manosphere, a return to a “Black Patriarchy”, is a solution to the social dysfunction they see among Black people.
Anyway, this is the 50th anniversary of The Moynihan Report, Patrick Moynihan’s The Negro Family: The Case for National Action.  So it stands to reason that you’ll hear a lot from those who think we can put the toothpaste back in the tube.  So here’s a couple of videos about restoring the black family, a return to “Black Patriarchy” and the futility of that line of thinking.  An intellectual and an “every day” brotha, two perspectives from very different view points with enough for you to chew on. So take it all in and process it.

 

 

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Youtube: Black men exhale

I recently posted a video by a former Youtuber Dan Freeman, who went by the name of The Avenue. I don’t know if Dan Freeman is his real name or an alias.

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Obsidian Media Network

I posted this for a couple of reasons. The first is, the black male/female interpersonal relationship debate playing out on Youtube. Youtube has empowered black men, provided a platform for us to talk about our lives from our perspective. This is mostly a generational thing with men under 45. They are willing to speak in a way that black men of earlier generations were not. But then again they’re the generation most affected by fallout from, The Great Society programs and feminism.
This has caught many by surprise. There are those who believe they own black men (our men), should speak for and about black men; should have the last say on black men. They have been able to control the narrative, shaping and framing it for their convenience. But this is no longer the case and the women are in full damage control mode. They have been unwilling to listen and from what I’ve seen the cognitive dissonance is stunning. One wonders, what came first the delusion or narcissism. They simply cannot image a world where they aren’t at the center.

All througangry-black-woman6h the 80s a lot was said. Black women took advantage of any and every platform that would give them the time of day. Their message, I posit, was to the general public, a mainstream audience. Essentially making the case of, “sees how hard we have it, dealing with black men, I mean you people know right”. They leveraged ever stereotype about black men that they could, in order to garner sympathy favors. They know these stereotypes play well, that the general public is receptive to them. You can say the most asinine thing about black men and people will latch on to it with ease. My gut tells me that this is a strategy by a certain class of black women and a few pandering men they allow to tag along. These men, or simps sit and nod quietly, refusing to speak for their own interest. This sit quietly until they get the ok to speak which is usually an attempt to put the “other’ brothers in check. “Now come on brother, the queens, the queens. We must uplift Black women”. Or, as Jesse Williams said, do better. Please, get the fuck out of here Jesse, your mom is White and you’re trying waaay to hard. Anyway, I believe this class of Black women aspire to be the PMC, Professional Management Class. I came to this notion based on 2 things; the reaction to Obama’s, My Brother’s Keeper Initiative and the argument that the money should go through the women; and an interview featuring Adolph Reed.

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Hardcore Tito

The second reason I posted The Avenue’s video is that black women are complaining that black men on Youtube are attacking them. Now of course the black men on Youtube represent a spectrum. It ranges from hard-core to straight forward and everything in between. Will you find some nut cases, of course and they’re being used as deflection. But if you’re willing to cut through the ridiculous, you will find rational positions being articulated. If you can’t listen to The Avenue, then you lack introspection or you’re intellectually dishonest.

There is a third reason. The Avenue’s rant hit home for me and totally captured my experience on a college campus in the 80s. So I wanted to give my on riff on the matter.

So here is my take

hispanic-womenI began college in the early 80s. I moved across country, a place that had no diversity at all, to California, a place with people from every corner of the world. At the time I find myself surrounded by women from all parts of the world this general attitude alluded to in The Avenue’s Rant was taking shape. Diverse
I simply made a practical logical decision; it wasn’t even a conscious decision. I always had an open-mind and didn’t put limits on myself. It just happened organically because of proximity, the available pool of girls was what it was.  I was in a place with very few Black American women, hardly any. I mean you could go for long periods without seeing a Black American woman and if she rolled her eyes and turned away, or simply looked away, it would be a long time before you saw another one. If you considered attractiveness, availability and openness, chance encounters that might lead to something were even scarcer. But there were plenty of Asian, Latin and White women.
Hispanic-WomanWhen I moved away from that area, to continue my education, there were still plenty of Asian, Latino and White women but now there were Black American women. I looked forward to this because to me, it just added to the options. However, in addition to what The Avenue characterized, which eliminated a number of Black American women as options, there was this other thing going on. I would meet Black American women and if not in the first conversation, shortly thereafter, they would give me what appeared to be a test. They would ask directly or indirectly, if I dated women of other races/cultures. When I answered in the affirmative that I don’t discriminate, they would bounce. Black American women were the only ones concerned about the racial make up of my dating history. Even Black women from other countries did not do this, only Black American women.

Multi-ethnic group of young women: African, Asian, Indian and Caucasian.

African, Asian, Indian and Caucasian.

This wasn’t a problem to me because again, there were women from other races/cultures who were accessible and to be frank, more approachable and available. What I liked about them was their openness to get to know me as an individual. What I didn’t miss was the, “I know how you Black men are” attitude. I mean who wants to start on probation, who wants to attempt to prove a negative; that I’m not something? I never swore off Black American women, I don’t believe in limiting my options but as time passed, American Black women became less and less a part of the rotation. asian-womenThey weren’t missed; I wasn’t having any trouble at all. So given the general attitude from American Black women, that odd question I was getting and their reaction, I essentially voted with my feet. Unless it was extremely convenient, I didn’t go out of my way, after a while they were completely missing and I felt less and less of an urge to even engage. Now, if they were Black women from a foreign country they were fair game.
So you go your own way, do your thing quietly and all is good. No need to trash American Black women, what’s the point, my dating/love life was moving along nicely. Oh but it wasn’t that easy, they won’t let you go away quietly. I encountered bad attitudes, bad service, even refused service and; women who believe it was their duty to let me know how they felt. I mean they actually believe they had the right, the jurisdiction to “check” me.

black-whiteSo fast forward to today, this interpersonal debate, what I’m hearing from American Black women about interracial dating and marriage (that’s reserved for the men, for themselves well it’s something new) is mostly a convenient lie. It was the women who shaped the attitude in the Black community about interracial dating. It was the women who led the charge, created and drove the memes of “yo momma black”, “self-hate”, “weak ass niggas”, etc., etc.

So I had to chime in and add my experience to the mix. First, this idea that they are the point of departure, something must have happened; again this inability to image a world where they aren’t at the center. Point of departure, maybe you weren’t even considered. All a Black man has to do is open his options and most Black women eliminate themselves. Also, this notion that if you see a Black man with a woman of another race, it means he loves ALL the women of that race and that it’s the only race he’s interested in just silly and small-minded. ScandinavianWMnAt one point I was hanging out with a chic from Norway, visiting for about 6 months; and, overlapping that, hanging with a chic from West Africa. WestAfricanSo much for the color “color-struck” argument, but again, small minds, they spend most of their time in a safe echo chamber and don’t get out much. In the echo chamber they create all these rules and when they emerge, they’re mugged by reality.

Converse a case study analogy

Nike came on the scene and instead of evolving and adapting Converse shrugged arrogantly (or, poked out their lips, rolled their eyes) and said, “We’re Converse we don’t have to change or compete.
In the American Black woman echo chamber the sentiment was, we’re the shit, been the shit, where else are they gonna go. They exhaled for anyone with a mic or camera. The guys heard how they felt and quietly, without fanfare, voted with their feet. Time passed, the women looked over their shoulders and no one was there. bikini2Some guys opted out, others found the retail world of women; they come in all shapes, sizes and colors (plus the DR and Rio) and discovered sweetness. Having tasted sweetness there is no turning back. Most American Black women born after about 1970 don’t have the DNA. The ones that do are off the market by their late 20s. The others double down with a weird mating call, browbeating. Now, the “Only thing on the menu is crow!” This is what the unraveling looks like, got my popcorn.

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We found Becky with the good hair!

Issues like hair, skin-tone should have been left in the 1970’s are still alive and kicking. 30+yrs later, we’re still left with this tired repetitive embarrassing beauty standard musing, However that standard includes a slim figure and I don’t see these women storming the gates at gyms or pushing away from the table. An hour in the gym vs 7 in the beauty salon, but I digress.Gabby
We saw this during the Olympics, with Gabby Douglas. This young lady was truly victimized, on an international stage, by small-minded people who claim they’re victimized by hair but continue to be the ones (and only ones) fetishizing it. Gabby was an Olympian, at the top of her sport and no one even thought about her hair, except the nattering nabobs of drama.

Now we have pop icon, Beyonce introducing a new phrase, trust me this will now be entrenched in our pop lexicon. “Becky with the good hair”.  Appearing in this picture with, ostensibly, good hair?

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In my opinion, Beyonce is being used. She’s popular; a tremendous entertainer but there’s no evidence that she’s politically astute. I doubt this is her politics and I doubt she fully understands the implications. But I could be wrong, we’ll see in the long run. However, I suspect what we’re seeing here is the same thing we saw with Hip Hop. A lot was made about it being the voice of the streets, the makings of a real political movement but turns out there was more interests in blood diamonds, big booties and sipping Moet in the back of clubs (along with gun play and catching bodies). Excluding the gun play, bodies and blood diamonds (African-Americans huh?), that’s fine with me, I never expected or thought Hip Hop was a political movement. There were just good head-nodding beats to be consumed.

As for the mystery of Becky with the good hair, it’s been solved.

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I’ll bet no one will look at the picture above and think, “cooning”, like everyone hating Samuel Jackson’s character in Django (which included 100+ instances of the N-word, Tarantino being your boy and all) but nothing about Alfre Woodard’s character or the woman in the battle royal scene, but again Negros are thirsty so..hey I digress)?

But the sentiment or ethos underlying Beyonce’s song, “Lemonde” is directly linked to that picture. It feeds the narrative being shopped around, that Black women have always been given lemons, relegated to the back burner in the community and black struggle. This is ridiculous and a misreading of history (which proves to me that Beyonce isn’t that politically astute and does not have a true understanding of that history).

The Black woman’s role (the political vanguard or Professional Management Class, of Black Americans) in this new woman’s nations, is a play for power. Power will always defend itself and this is, on the one hand a justification (for why everything in the Black community needs to go through the women). We saw this with My Brother’s Keeper, when Black women and 100 or so thirsty dudes or just plan simps.  And on the other hand a deflection.  Over the last 2/3 generations women have been in charge of every institution in the Black community, along with setting it’s emotional temperament. What they want to avoid is an audit of what happened on their watch, the counting of the number of bodies, the proliferation of guns, gangs, high school drop-outs and somewhere in-the-winds (missing).

This is why you will continue to see victim-vogue and victim-hood oneupsmanship. But that’s all you will see because the only end game, other than the carnage, disposeability and the serving up of the Black communities boys, is captured in this:

And those are the leaders, lemons indeed!

 

Do Minstrels Coon hunt?

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I was just reading Silly D’s interview in Rolling Stone’s Magazine article, “Hear Willie D’s provocative media assassination coon. Willie DInstead of creatively coming up with something new, based on an evolution of political thought (it’s been while) he simply chose to be an opportunist. He could have come up with something about police reform, community reform but his solution is to hunt who he believes are coons.

I’ve noticed that the term coon is experiencing a recent up turn, and being reintroduced into the lexicon. Ray Lewis, Rza, Don Lemon, Stephan A. Smith, Charles Barkley,  all “coons”now.  Bill Cosby was that guy until “they” went after him; suddenly what he said wasn’t cooning, now it’s the “man” coming after him for speaking the truth. Not many of these cats came Cosby’s defense when the likes of Eric Dyson and others went after him. But hey, when it’s the women and the left, these guys suddenly come down with a case of, the cat has my tongue, but I digress.

Silly D is a guy who participated in what Stanley Crouch termed, the “New Minstrelsy”; trafficking in black dysfunction (cooning indeed!), dust off old slogans and goes coon hunting. Unbelievable.  I suspect we’ll see more artist and wacktavist piggybacking on a cheap political argument held up, vicariously, with not much more than slogans.
All-Coons-Look-A-Like-To-me-630x350This repackaging of old stereotypes and labels shows that the idea of Hip Hop, as a political movement, never really materialized. I was cool with them just rocking the house but many thought there was more there and envisioned it as the voice of a new political movement. Mainly because those who would hold on to such hopes had abdicated their responsibility or simply ran out of ideas.  Well, turns out it’s just, stylizing a political posture through sloganeering or at the very least that’s what it has become. This dusting off of old terms like coon, uncle tom, quoting that line from Malcolm X about the house negro which is and was, when he uttered it for a national TV audience, historically inaccurate, is the new politics of he unexamined slogan. But you can’t convince these low-attention span, low information, adverse to data in favor of half-baked slogans.

Chiraq.jpegIf you care too much about the murders and shootings in our urban centers, that qualifies you as a coon. Apparently people can’t walk and chew gum at the same time.  From coast-to-coast, East to West and North to South, each day there are thousands of encounters between cops and Black men (men in 99% of the cases). The vast majority of these encounters do not end with police maleficence. So this overplay, given those numbers, of cops vs Black men, is a cop-out and reflective of people who don’t know what to do about this overwhelming existential crisis going on in places like Chicago.  The two issues, police in desperate need of reform (which is why I preferred the emphasis on blue not black) and, what to do about the murders, shooting and violence are inseparable.  But there are those who actually believe that if you avoid the subject, people won’t notice. It’s laughable they notice.

These people are in a dark room with a blindfold on searching for a black cat that isn’t there!  Just how does one accuse a person like Ray Lewis, who’s actually talking to Black people, of Ray Lewissignaling to White people in some kind of way, of cooning, versus, what the BLM movement, people who wave around the label coons are doing? And that is, in 2016, begging the question of black humanity to those same White people? You do realize that what you’re doing is, trying to get them to believe that your life should matter more in their eyes than it does? If you’re down on your knees you may as well kiss the feet.

We shall overcome and when that seems too much of a challenge, shift the focus to attacking the blacks who believe it’s a challenge that can be met or politicians who may or may not take office at some future point.   Asandersblm.pngny real legitimate political movement would recognize that right now, with their hands on the levers of power, there are 2 Democrats, a Black man, POTUS and a Black woman, AG. And yet they storm the gates at Sanders and Clinton’s campaign rallies!?  These theatrical tantrums and going after, Stephan A Smith, Barkley etc. is low hanging fruit for political activism that is void of ideas and doesn’t want to do the heavy lifting.

Conclusion: These people use the only perceived power they have, attacking other blacks.  These are the same people who don’t want to talk about the black-on-black violence we’re seeing in our urban centers. Ironic huh? They don’t have anything original, haven’t come up with any new ideas or tactics and don’t appear terribly interested in the task.

And now, in a globalized world where identity construction is complex, the identity through politics zeitgeist is struggling. And really, this is more about identity politics than any real change.  Given a world of a billion images, identity formation is increasingly optional and these low information cats like Silly D want to repressively decide what black is, what black ain’t. And that definition, in opposition to the global trend, is getting narrower and narrower. Pretty soon it will close in and feed on its on….oh that’s already happening! the-rza

The Failure of Racial Liberalism

“The failure of racial liberalism results in religion as the only way to avoid the implications of that failure and as an easy answer to challenge of having to overcome that failure. Which I think is the fundamental philosophical and intellectual confronting Black people now.”
Glenn Loury from Bloggingheads.tv’s The Glenn Show with John McWhorter.

 

bhtv-2015-06-29-loury-mcwhorter  The Failure of racial liberalism

Another great discussion between Glenn and John. The quote above was Glenn’s response to John using, as analogy, for the racial discourse and the emerges of Ta-Nehisi Coates.  To hear John’s riff Click here 

Dr. Boyce Watkins and Black Feminist

BoyceWatkinsDr. Boyce Watkins, an American author, economist, political analyst, and social commentator, cause a stir today on Twitter. He dared to take a swing at the beehive. Now Watkins is a smart man, with a heightened sensitivity and awareness when it comes to the Black American social, political and cultural scene. So he had to know what he was doing and the push back he would receive. So why did he do it? Whether intended or not, his tweet drew out and allowed the tyrannical, bullying fascist wing of the Black community to expose itself.

Here’s his tweet:
@AngryBlackLady @marclamonthill – Unfortunately, many white feminists have taught black women to hate black men. The abuse is very hurtful

*cough Michelle Wallace via Gloria Steinem..

Now feminism is a theory and anyone who adheres to a theory that is beyond question, can’t be critiqued, well then you know what you’re dealing with; someone who has made the personal, political.

The Twitter backlash was amusing to watch in a train wreck sort of way. I tried to have fun with it. But THE most asinine thing I heard was the notion: Not male feminist = bad dad. Now THAT is definitely white feminism, the home is a dangerous place for women and children? Dads protect your daughters; it’s not just the “thugs”, keep them away from these toxic women.

I’ve seen the hatred Dr. Watkins spoke about, experienced it up close and personal. But Black feminist make up about .0000whatever % of the women on this planet so I don’t know why Black men still bother arguing with them. They want the fight.

Dr. Watkins was trying to call them out but still left the door open by blaming whitey, in this case, White women. He must have placed his bet on the hatred of White women being stronger than the hatred of Black men. (Yeah, go girl culture has its issues, always has. But they quickly change the subject and agree to take it out on Black men. Not powerful men, who run the patriarchy, the low hanging fruit.) But the one thing we know for sure, who passed on the anger to a younger generation of Black girls. And you can’t blame White women for that!

The amusing thing about the Twitter backlash was, they were less vehement about denying their hatred of Black men than balking at the notion that White women had anything to do with it. Oh they owned the hatred, but of course don’t feel like they should take responsibility for it. Their position seems to be we’re going to go with our hatred until you, Black man, fix us. You, Black man of today, carry the burden you had nothing to do with, because a generation of women didn’t deal with their shit. Basically the sentiment is, just by the very nature of me being a Black woman, you owe me. Have at it young fellas, if you must, but just so you know, it’s a big world and it is full of women. But all these women have is their anger, sour grapes and bull shit shaming or guilt tactics. They think so little of themselves that the only case they can make of why you should be with them is political. But you know they must know on some level, that more and more Black men don’t want to deal with it, don’t have to deal with it.

It has to be on the Good Black women to rid the community of these toxic women, because Black men certainly don’t have the courage. Besides, why do that, why take on that burden when they fall so easily to simply being told what they want to here. Pimps, preachers, hustlers have always been the most successful and they all play out of the same handbook.

End game: I don’t know what they think the end game is. Don’t think they’ve given must thought to it, other than trafficking in and monetizing their pain. You heard it with the Rachel Dolezal incident, “She stole our pain!”, wouldn’t that be a good thing, make you feel a little lighter?  Not if you view your pain as a commodity.  All they want is the make everyone else around them as miserable as they are, just so they can continue to be miserable.

The only thing that can save the Black community is, The Good Black Woman.